Okay, here's the background. I placed this ad on thatsbj about 3 weeks ago. It's still running. It goes:
Title: Looking for a Chinese Girlfriend.
I'm a 33 year old single man living in Beijing. I'm from Ireland originally. I'm looking for a Chinese girlfriend in Beijing. I have a two bedroom apartment here in Beijing and I'm looking for someone to live with me. I've been in Beijing for 13 months now and I love it here. I'm thinking of making a new life for me here. But, I get lonely sometimes and I'm looking for companionship with a like-minded woman. I'm a philosopical guy with opinions on the issues of the day. I'm very interested in politics and world affairs as well as history. I like to do exercise every day and I try to eat healthily and do as much cooking as possible at home.
I'm looking for an independent woman(both emotionally and financially) who is creative and open-minded.
I keep a blog here:
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Please e-mail/msn me back at *************************
or phone/text me at ******************.
At least one photo would be appreciated.
Thank you.
Paul Carr
(*************************) = contact details have been removed for this blog post only.
There were also 2 photos of me attached to the ad above
Okay, I'll start with the more nasty one first. She replied via e-mail to my thatsbj ad 2 days ago remarking that she likes Bailey's. Bailey's is an alcoholic drink from Ireland which I have found many western learning Chinese also like. She leaves her mobile phone number on this e-mail. So,anyway, yesterday morning, I text her to say I like Bailey's too and I introduce myself. Okay, she texts me back and asks me for my msn e-mail. Presumably, she had forgotten about my ad.(my msn e-mail address is given there) Anyway, I give it to her. Silly selfish git!!.(I mean her not me) Okay, yesterday morning, we chat. What did we chat about? Let me think... hmm... I've every intention, by the way, to delete all records of my conversations with her now and I'm not about to peruse whatever records there may be on msn history to find out exactly what we wrote to each other. So, let's skip that for now.
Anyway, yesterday evening, we resume our chat on msn. She tells me briefly her siuation and then finally says she's looking for a place to live. Ah, now, you're getting the picture? I think she saw on my ad, or remembered that on my ad, I said I had a two bedroom apartment and, you know, she wanted the other room., you know, like be a roommate where maybe, I'll be so so nice to her and give her a big discount.. Anyway, I didn't reply. About 10 minutes later, she asks me (she types me), "Are you retarded?". Well, I couldn't believe it!!. Perhaps, I did see red but I think, with good reason. What is this? Because I don't reply to her telling me her story, I'm retarded? I clariify to her that I am looking for a girlfriend, not a roommate as per the thatsbj ad, shown above. I told her that she was retarded for thinking I wanted a roommate. I then also called her an idiot!!. Which she is, by the way!! Stupidly, in hindsight, I let her continue to type (in hindsight, I should have barred her there and then - maybe I was just in a state of shock!). She then wrote the following triumphalist, childish, girlish, girly drivel. Something like this. "You'll never find a girlfriend because you are an idiot. LOL". Or something like that. I honestly can't remember exactly what she wrote but it was triumphalist girly girlish bullshit. Crap. I was going to reply with "I don't believe you're really laughing" but she had already gone offline (99% certain she had barred me). Well, the fucking bitch got her foot in first. Next time, I won't be so nice. (with whoever) Oh, yeah, I remember now, yesterday morning, she wanted my pictures. Despite the fact, that my thatsbj ad had two of my pictures already and there was a link to my blog where there were more pictures of me. Anyway, in good humour and good faith, I relented and gave her the link again. I'm too much of a fucking nice guy!!. (*)
Okay, that's her. The other nasty person I also had an exchange with on msn yesterday evening. Actually, it was a bit of a double whammy yesterday evening as I had the run-in with both of these Chinese girls within the space of one hour or even 30 minutes or less of each other. The other nasty person didn't turn out to be verbally abusive like the first one. And, yeah, readers, asking the question, "Are you retarded?" is verbal abuse as well as raw aggression and selfishness. Okay, the other nasty person (they're both Chinese girls by the way, maybe early to mid 20s) initially sent me a text on my mobile phone yesterday evening, get this, asking me how much the other room of my apartment was.i.e. how much money she had to pay to get it. I told her, in reply, she obviously hadn't read my post. I wasn't looking for a roommate. I was looking for a girlfriend. She replied that maybe I was looking for both. I replied no. We then continued our chat on msn messenger. She goes, rather intolerantly and aggressively, in my opinion, that she was rather scared of me because, you know, she was joking and I hadn't taken the joke. I told her that, you know, if she is going to be scared of my response, then, she has serious problems.. She then asked me why she had problems. I told her I was busy and I didn't need to answer her strange questions. Anyway, after a delay, I decided to write to her, "Grow up", but she had gone off line (99% certain she too had barred me).
And, these two girls, I've barred too. Good riddance!!. And will I change my ad to, for example, add a qualifier to say, you know, "I'm not looking for a roommate". My answer. Fuck you!!. I'm not going to change my ad just to satisfy these selfish self-centred bitches. They both couldn't read obviously. They both, apparently, thought I was looking for a roommate and were wondering if I would sublet the extra apartment room. Like, read the fucking title of my thatsbj ad: "Looking for a Chinese Girlfriend". You, two girls, both have a problem reading English. [sighs]. Maybe, I'll change the ad later but not to satisfy and appease these two intolerant ladies. Maybe, I'll add further positive things to it. I dunno.
[sighs].
Anyway, I'm sorry, my blog, these days, had become a vent for my frustation with the contradictory gender. And, you know, I will, as usual, add the proviso that, you know, I don't believe all Chinese girls (of this age (20 to 25 years old)) are like this. But, [sighs], good grief!!.
Okay.
Paul Carr
(*) Oh,and by the way, I believe that this bitch knew about and remembered my thatsbj ad and knew I was looking for a girlfriend (not a roommate too or as an alternative) (all I had done was also mention I had a two bedroom apartment), but you know, what I think she really wants is an idiot, just like her, who doesn't read and can't give a straight answer. I wish her good luck in her search.
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